How NOT to start a conversation with a woman you don’t know…

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I find the title amusing. Why? Because a woman will know whether she wants to sleep with you or not from first sight. The only thing you can do is change her mind into saying NO.

There’s some subconscious sortation or maybe even very  conscious.

Everything can start from this point….

Women are the best liars and the best detectors of lies. So I think it’s more PROFITABLE to not lie and be so sure of yourself. Better a truth, faltering.  If you’re on the list….she’s going to say you faultered “cutely”, proving sensitivity. If you’re not….she’ll think you’re semi-retarded…

Life is not fair. :)))))

I’m a big fan of a the guy who has the charm of not lying when creating a conversation. I believe in common choices. From the first seconds. I choose to speak, she chooses to listen.

I believe in weighing the chances before you approach her. I believe in eye contact. I know that for some this is hard, but they will learn to like it. I believe in “Hey”,in a good joke, in a nice handshake or a smile like an opening at poker.

If she reciprocates with a smile then the stakes have doubled…….


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Live a little. Laugh a lot

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I’m going to start with a couple of quotes from “Hitch”, a movie I recommend.

“There is more to life than to watch other people live it.”

Live a little. Next time that secretary  walks by and her sweet perfume makes you nostalgic, GO TELL HER.

“Basic principles: no woman wakes up saying, “God, I hope I don’t get swept off my feet today!” Now, she might say, “This is a really bad time for me,” or something like, “I just need some space,” or my personal favorite, “I’m really into my career right now.” You believe that? Neither does she. You know why? Because she’s lying to you, that’s why. You understand me? Lying! It’s not a bad time for her. She doesn’t need any space. And she may be into her career, but what she’s really saying is, “Uh, get away from me now,” or possibly, “Try harder, stupid.” But which one is it? Sixty percent of all human communication is nonverbal, body language; thirty percent is your tone. So that means that ninety percent of what you’re saying ain’t coming out of your mouth. Of course she’s going to lie to you! She’s a nice person. She doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. What else she going to say? She doesn’t even know you… yet. Luckily, the fact is that just like the rest of us, even a beautiful woman doesn’t know what she wants until she sees it.”

Live a little. The only people without vices are the ones that can’t afford them. So as my lovely friend was preaching the other day, find something that you love and let it kill you. Adrenaline junkie? Good, skydive, base jump, learn to fly a wingsuit. I sure as hell will do it. Family is what floats your boat? Then go out there and find yourself one, the right one. If the woman you wake up next to is not the one you dreamed about then you woke up in the wrong bed. You want a successful career? You better start building towards that because every decision you make can either help you build tomorrow or ruin it.

Live a little more. Go outside your comfort zone, you see that guy drinking his coffee alone and you check him out and you kind of like what you see ? So then you tell yourself, if he was worth it, he wouldn’t be drinking coffee alone. Isn’t that simple? I don’t know what it is or why you find guys that are taken more attractive.

Go do something you never thought you could. What doesn’t kill you better get out of your way when you get up. Do something you were always scared of, do something not many people can say they’ve done.

Remember “Life is not the amount of breaths you take, it’s the moments that take your breath away.”

The best breakfast is taken in bed. In the right bed 🙂 At 20 you know what you want, at 30 you know who you want. Learn to ask a lot from life, that way you have where to start negotiating.

Is it raining? NO because my weather forecast depends on her smile. And remember, a good night is not a night you slept. 🙂

Unless we try the answer will always be NO.

Use your imagination, let it take you to worlds you didn’t know existed. Worlds you can’t comprehend, emotions you haven’t felt.

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Yours, A M Maxim

Perfect man

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For those of you thinking all men are a**holes. For those of you thinking “they’re all the same”. The special lady strikes again,straight to the heart this time. This is for you, for those of you who have not experienced this.



A letter to a Ghost



You are a man that every woman dreams to have the opportunity to share even few seconds with… even if it were once in a life time.



Your giving nature turns you into an irresistible lover, whom one can not forget or compare to any one else.


I was lucky to share unique moments of joy and completeness with you, as well as take advantage of your friendship, which I did not deserved under those circumstances. I wish to thank you for being there for me, as without you my path would have been broken and life a mere routine, without hope and expectation for a new start.


You are an amazing man, with so much character and strength. The effect you have on people is perhaps even bigger, than you think. It is people like you, which can make this world a better place, just by being the way you are, and bring sun, light and smiles to those lucky enough to be a part of your life. You simply bring out the best in people…


You see you are not only strong, intelligent, the best listener I have ever met in my life and the lover for me, but also a person with integrity and a noble cause. I do not only want you, but I also admire you. I admit I need to live my extremes but also my moments of weakness. You are one of them…maybe the most important of them!


One way or another you are the trip you are the destination, the hope and the expectation. That is what you are…

The biggest compliment.

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I believe can always be surprised by our own intellect. The greatest compliment is not going to be something you want to hear but rather something you don’t. The greatest compliment you’ll receive is going to be about something you never thought about.

Acknowledging the diversity between people we all have different definitions about the concept of complimenting.

So what’s the GREATEST of all compliments?

Is it when he tells you that you’re the most beautiful woman he’s ever seen when you wake up in the morning? Or is it when he tells you you’re intelligent, of course you already know you’re beautiful.

When you tell him you trust him. Is that the greatest compliment? I believe it’s not. Not because it isn’t the greatest, but because that shouldn’t be a compliment, that should be a fundamental law of a relationship. Maybe when she screams “OMG” in certain situations or positions, well, that better be the greatest compliment, or it could be the greatest insult. Interpretation is key.

Is it when he tells you he couldn’t live without you or his world would darken if you left it? When she tells you you make her happy then you know you’ve accomplished something, something great.

The greatest compliment is when your friend tells you that you combine all the fun elements of each of his friends.


Yours, A M Maxim

How to seduce a woman.True art.

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It only seems fair to do a guide on women since I did one on men. If you missed it, here it is:  http://wp.me/p3UNG3-1I .

As expected this is going at least twice as long than the men guide.I know I said this in a couple of other posts, but We can’t help who We’re attracted to. It just happens naturally.

“Woman don’t know what they want but they want it now.” So if you’re willing to seduce “that” one then You must be ready to be perseverant, perseverant not obnoxious. Every woman has some traits she’s looking for in a man.  With some you only need money :), bummer, right? Facial aesthetics helps immensely. Some like that he’s very popular or that he has rock hard abs. But this before they realise popularity, aesthetics and rock hard abs don’t pay for bills. From what I experienced, women start looking for more once they hit “maturity”.

Believe me on this, women hate being single, they need that sense of security behind a man. As much as they’re going to tell you, they hate taking decisions by themselves. That’s when you come in.

Picking “THE ONE”.

As I said, You can’t chose who you’re attracted to but what you can control is the environment you’re in while looking for her. So based on what you want in a woman, You find her at the book club, at the grocery store, at the club, in a library or in a brothel, if that’s your thing.

The scariest thing ever existed on the face of the Earth.

No, not spiders. The fear of rejection when you approach her and try to create conversation out of star dust. I know this is difficult but it’s not as difficult as you might think.  Women like confidence, especially when you take the lead. You’re the man, remember? Or have you been emasculated already?

Please, I mean please, I urge you to not use any cheesy lines. I have these magic words that always work when you approach a woman, okay? Trust me once you use them you’re set. Just say: Hey, how you doing?” WHAT?!?! WHAT?!?! BOOM.

As one of my favourite writers said: “Men go to far greater lengths to avoid what they fear than to obtain what they desire”.

Listen to her

I don’t even want to begin to elaborate on how many people tell me they run out of things to talk about. WHAT? I ask them what they do, and they’re like: “Well, I ask a question and then I immediately think of another one.” So he’s not even listening, don’t panic, relax, I’m sure she doesn’t bite. Also, they can see when you’re tensed, makes it awkward.

Compliment her

If she’s staggering don’t tell she’s beautiful, you think you’re the first one that noticed that and told her? Tell her she looks well in that dress, or when you see her in the hallway, tell her the colour of her jumper suits her, believe me on this, she’ll be thinking about it later. Just give genuine compliments, don’t exaggerate.

Make her laugh

I’m going to be a hypocrite and advise you against sexual jokes, especially at the beginning. Try making her laugh, that doesn’t mean learning bad jokes of reddit and telling her. Use your surroundings.

Don’t lie.EVER.

If some of you read my last post you’d have gathered I’m a strong believer in sincerity, so if I don’t like her shoes, I will tell her. But I advise not to do that. Women tend to ask questions they already know the answer to. Believe me, this is not just a myth, they test you 🙂

I see this a lot: “I NEED TO IMPRESS HER”. No. That comes naturally. Don’t pretend to be something you’re not for anyone. Okay so you do impress her, you start dating, then what? Then you start being yourself and she’s going to realise…..

The last thing is optional, I do it because it brings me joy, selfish, hah. Get her flowers.

As a reminder, I wrote this for fun from my general ignorance.

Remember, seducing is an art and art takes practice. Also, IT’S NOT WHAT A WOMAN SAYS, IT’S HOW SHE SAYS IT.

Yours, A M Maxim

How to seduce a MAN.

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You have to ask yourselves what you want. An affair or a relationship although relationships today are pretty much affairs.



Send him naked pictures. End of story, he’s  yours, for one, two, maybe even three nights of pleasure. Then he leaves. WHY? Because that’s all you had to offer. Pleasure.  I’m sorry to burst your bubble but that doesn’t make all men “THE SAME”. You’ll be treated like what you seem to be. That could be a princess, a lady or a slut.



You’re right when you think “looks” matter. They do. It all starts from how you look, unfortunately that’s the way it is. All people are judgmental, whether they admit it or not it’s a different story. For me at least, if you don’t look like you’ve had 10 rounds with Mike Tyson, you’re fine, within reason, of course.   Being pretty is not going to cut it. Not for a MAN. Sure, you can be staggering. But that beauty will pass, what are you going to do when you’re 40 and he leaves you for a “hot” 20 year old? I’ll tell you what. You’re going to say: “ALL MEN ARE THE SAME”. HAH.

Men are not complicated. You should be able to diagnose in a couple of hours. Believe me on this, however confident he is, if he doesn’t falter around you, he’s not interested. You should be able to tell whether he is having a good time or not. How? Well, he smiles like a moron for starters.

A woman that smells good is a magnificent woman. I can’t even describe how big of an impact this can have. Eye contact. This is very important. Look into his eyes, this will improve the atmosphere and give him a sense of security,

When a woman teases, it shows two things: 1. She’s comfortable around you. 2. She’s intelligent. This is my personal opinion, if  she can tease you, she’s intelligent.

Sense of humour. Hah. Well, this is slightly more complicated than it looks.  We’re all different people and We react differently to different things. I like to categorize sense of humour in three categories. Aggressive (Me), passive and English. HAHAHA. You need to be compatible when it comes to humour, again, personal opinion.

CHEMISTRY. No, not GCSE or A Level Chemistry. The chemistry between the two of you. I can’t explain this. I don’t know how, you have to feel it. I’ll give you an example though. In my previous relationship I would pick up the phone and within 5 seconds I’d receive a text, from her. How would I know? I FELT.



Yours, A M Maxim.